Women are not as content as men are in today’s workplace. From the boardroom to the conference room, women often feel they’re being treated and valued differently than men. They feel their ideas are ignored or dismissed during meetings, they feel excluded from formal decisions and informal events, and they often feel passed over when challenging assignments are awarded.
Interestingly, the higher up in the organization, the more frequently women will cite these feelings of disappointment and career unfulfillment.
Men, on the other hand, are generally comfortable with the business rules of engagement. Many claim they’re unaware of how their behavior affects women. They just assume that their female colleagues approach work the same way men do.
Surveys bear out these perceptions and reveal significant gender gaps in how men and women view women’s satisfaction with their jobs and women’s opportunities for advancement.
- 83 percent of men believe both men and women experience the same level of job satisfaction while only 52 percent of women say they feel it for themselves.
- 68 percent of men believe that women have the same chance of getting ahead as men do. Only 24 percent of women share that outlook.
We all want to perform at our very best. Yet, our false assumptions about the thoughts and actions of the men and women we work with—our gender blind spots—prevent us from achieving greater success in our professional and personal lives.
Although women’s feelings of exclusion are very real, and they’re more than justified in wanting men to change in order to create a more collaborative working environment, their blind spot is in assuming men’s actions are intentional. Men’s blind spot is in not being aware of how their actions often impact the women on their teams.
Here are a just a few examples:
- Women often say they would raise an idea at a meeting only to have it ignored or dismissed. Yet a man will bring up the same idea—minutes later—and everyone will embrace it.
- Women commonly ask more questions than men do—often to stimulate discussion and broaden options. Men tend to narrow down options and zero in on solutions in order to make quick decisions.
- Women often feel they have to work harder, longer hours than their male peers just to be considered “as good.” Men tend to read this as a lack of self-confidence and trying to do too much to make up for it.
The first step in removing our gender blind spots and closing the gender gap is accepting the fact that men and women are not the same. The more men and women grow to understand their differences and what really influences those differences, the more insight they’ll gain into each other’s needs. Through gender intelligence, men and women can learn to stop the blame game. They can begin to find the complement in their differences and as a result, find greater success and satisfaction in their work life and personal life.
Copyright ©2014 Barbara Annis. This post originally appeared on Barbara Annis & Associates, Inc. Used with permission.